"Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family: Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one." - Jane Howard
Relationships. We all have them. We all need them. So why do they have to be so hard?
Well, lots of reasons. You know the obvious ones: We are stressed. We are busy. Things are in contant flux. And sometimes others tell us our form of family is not OK. That never helps!
But there is another layer as well: We all have "stuff." What we carry from our past into every relationship. Entering a new romance? You can be sure you have a duffel bag of "stuff" from your last one. Parenting a kid? As your child hits various ages, you are likely to run into "stuff" from when you were that age. It's like having relationships with multiple people, and some of them are younger versions of you! What are the boundaries? When to say yes? When to say no?
How can a therapist and relationship counseling help? Well, it depends on the situation. Sometimes, I may offer new ways of talking that might work better than what you have been trying. At other times, I may act as a translator when communication has gotten bogged down-- usually when one person's "stuff" is colliding with the other's. In special circumstances, such as when an eating disorder, addiction, or other mental health condition is involved, I may offer very specific guidance and information.
No matter what situation your family is facing, my goal is to help you move toward a happier, more satisfying relationship with the people you love. And isn't that really what we all want?